When we look back at 2009, I doubt any of us will remember it as a banner year.
But for me it's been just the worst.
In a matter of eight weeks, I lost employment, health and love.
Happily, the only lingering traces of my extreme pneumonia are an annoying occasional cough, but the other two areas of my life are a bit more problematic.
So for the benefit of others out there like me (my fellow unemployed and dumped), may I suggest that you avoid asking us a couple of questions that only serve to remind us of our state of being and which we really don't want to answer anyway.
The first is, "Any luck finding a job yet?"
Let me assure you, when we are again employed, we will be shouting it from the rooftops, telling strangers and boring everyone with details.
Until then, it's just another time we have to acknowledge our failure.
The other question to be avoided is, "Why aren't you dating yet?"
Uh, because I'm still working through this whole broken-hearted thing? Because I'm not ready to? Because there's no point?
Believe me, if a woman like me is deliberately opting out of trying to find a partner, there's probably a good reason.
Nagging her to make the effort is not going to change her readiness for it, and it's definitely not something she needs to hear.
Or read, as in in my freaking horoscope: A new love is simply a new person awakening the feeling of love that was already inside you. It's nice to have someone unlock it for you, but not necessary. It was always there.
Take it from someone who knows, your laid off and dumped friends are happy to talk about almost anything except jobs and love.
I'm sure you can understand.